18 Things to Remember When Your Heart is Breaking

Have you ever felt not worthy of someone's love? Ever felt that heart - wrenching pain when he told you that he doesn't love you anymore? Or maybe felt like ripping your heart off your chest because of the endless pain of rejection? How about seeing your ex-BF (who you still have feelings for) with another girl and realized he's totally moved on and totally forgot about you. Isn't that just kick-you-in-the-crotch, spit-on-your-neck, fantastic? Note the sarcasm? Obvs. It hurts. So friggin' hurts.

We all came to a point of our lives where out hearts got broken by the ones we loved the most. But that shouldn't make you feel worthless, broken or depressed. It should serve as a wake up call from the wrong fantasies that made us forget about the reality.

I found this article on the world wide web and thought I'd share it to everyone, most especially to the broken hearted peeps out there. It's not the end of the world, you just need to get up, pick up the broken pieces and move on. For starters, read the list below and start to get yourself together. 

1. The genuine, loving emotion that breaks your heart is oftentimes the same emotion that will heal it, gradually, over time.

2. The person you liked or loved in the past, who treated you like dirt repeatedly, has nothing intellectually or spiritually to offer you in the present moment, but more headaches and heartache.

3. You can mull it over and obsess and obsess about how things turned out – what you did wrong or should have done differently – but there’s no point.  It will NOT change anything right now!

4. Some chapters in our lives have to close without closure.  There’s no point in losing yourself by trying to hold on to what’s not meant to stay.

5. Seven letters.  Two words.  One saying.  It can either cut you open to the core and leave you in horrific pain, or it can free your heart and soul and lift an incredible weight off your shoulders.  The saying is: It’s over!

6. When you don’t get what you want, sometimes it’s necessary preparation, and other times it’s necessary protection.  But the time is never wasted.  It’s a step on your journey.  (Read The Road Less Traveled.)

7. Someday you’re going look back on this time in your life as such an important time of grieving and growing.  You will see that you were in mourning and your heart was breaking, but your life was changing.

8. Transitions in life are the perfect opportunity to let go of one situation to embrace something even better coming your way.

9. One of the hardest lessons to learn: You cannot change other people.  Every interaction, rejection and heartbreaking lesson is an opportunity to change yourself only.

10. Be determined to be positive.  Understand that the greater part of your misery or unhappiness from this point forward is determined not by your circumstances, but by your attitude.

11. Life and God both have greater plans for you that don’t involve crying at night or believing that you’re broken.

12. It’s always better to be alone than to be in bad company.  And when you do decide to give someone a chance, do so because you’re truly better off with this person.  Don’t do it just for the sake of not being alone.

13. When someone rejects you it doesn’t mean you need to also reject yourself or think of yourself as less worthy.  It doesn’t mean that nobody will ever want you anymore.  Remember that there are billions of people in the world and only ONE person has rejected you.  And it only hurts so bad right now because, to you, that one person’s opinion represented the opinion of the whole world.  But that’s not the truth.

14. Sometimes it takes a broken heart to shake you awake and help you see that you are worth so much more than you were settling for.  (Angel and I discuss this in more detail in the “Self-Love” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)

15. When you lose someone or something, don’t think of it as a loss, but as a gift that lightens your load so you can better travel the path meant for you.

16. Anything that hurts you today only makes you stronger in the end.

17. When all is said and done, grief is the price you pay for love.  And it’s better to have loved, lost and learned, than to have never loved at all.

18. A broken heart is just the growing pains necessary so that you can love more completely when the real thing comes along.

Give yourself a chance to love again, to feel again, and to live again.

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